I (28F) had a first date with a guy (32M) recently. It went well, and we have been texting/calling. He asked me to attend an formal event with him that’s in a couple of weeks, and I accepted. But now he told me (a few days after our first date) that he told his mom about me. He said that she’s wondering when she’ll meet me.

I’m having some anxiety now, because I don’t want to romanticize anything. Now it feels like we’ve jumped from 0 to 100 in 3 days.

So my question is: am I overreacting or is this happening way too fast?

All the underwear I can find has a seam right up the center which flosses my balls and is regularly a source of discomfort

I am asking from an emotional standpoint. All advices I've heard till now are always along the lines of "you are too young, keep at it", "just focus on a hobby", "find meaning in something else like volunteering", "focus on your job" etc.

All of these are just about deflecting or ignoring the reality so you don't have to deal with it. I'm asking how did you convince yourself that "it's okay to be unwanted".

Edit: many of you are mentioning kind and nurturing - isn’t this the basis for a relationship? I would expect both people to be this way.

Tweezing time per day is increasingly asymptotically. Sometimes they're 1 cm or longer before I can even see them. Increasingly they're white and hide in plain sight. Halp.

19F

I myself have one. So I wore torn/distressed jeans to work one day, the one with loose threads on the knee. Two of my female colleagues, who are funny people and I like them, started poking in it with their fingers. Everyone was laughing, but didn't feel funny to me. But I just pretended to laugh and then got away from their. Never wore those jeans again to work.

How does she need to look? What does she need to say?

The thought of flirting with a woman and having it be reciprocated seems really nice, like I've watched other guys flirt with women and think damn that must feel so exciting and fun

But that never happens to me

So how do you get over and get rid of that desire?